Benjamin argues that for a person to reach an ideal subjectivity, they must be viewed as a subject by someone else. Jessica Benjamin also states that the model of identity originates from when a child begins to be able to separate feelings and thoughts from his mothers. This happens when a child can truly understand himself. Benjamin claims individuality comes down to connectivity and separation. As children grow up and they have less connectivity they will also have less subjectivity altering things in their lives. Also her goal is to have the premise of identity to not depend on the rejections of others. She believes this all stems from a need for recognition. Benjamin says that for the power in a relationship to be stable both partners must view each other as a subject. She also states that true independence comes from “asserting the self and recognizing the other¨.