The book that I enjoyed the most this year was Pride and Prejudice. I’m not sure if it is the book that changed me the most, that might be Beloved, but I adored Austen’s story and it still changed my outlook on life for the better. I love a good romantic-comedy, so reading the “original rom-com” was really fun. My favorite trope is also “enemies to lovers” which is exactly what Pride and Prejudice is. Elizabeth despises Darcy because she believes him to be prideful, stuck-up, disrespectful, and cold; essentially the exact opposite of what she values in a person. However, then she both learns some of her preconceptions are false and then he improves himself because of her disdain for him and she falls in love with him. I found it easy to fall into the world of the Bennets and the Darcys; I felt frustrated for Elizabeth’s sake and I felt frustrated at her for taking a while to see the truth. I genuinely would be smiling and giggling while reading the book because I was so invested.
I felt like I could relate to Elizabeth Bennet’s character despite living in a different century. I couldn’t relate to the social expectation to find a husband as a young woman or to not introduce oneself as a woman to a man, especially to a man of social superiority. However, I could relate to her determination, her appreciation for her genuine female friendships, her hatred of arrogant and fake people, and her trust in herself. Lizzy’s refusal to give Mr Collins, originally Mr Darcy, and Lady Catherine what they wanted (either their hand in marriage or to refuse a proposal) was brave and admirable. Despite the pressures to get married, especially to a rich man, Elizabeth did not want to give up her own freedom and her own values.
Other than loving Elizabeth, I loved Darcy too. While he starts out arrogant and insults Lizzy and her family multiple times, he ends up undergoing extreme character growth. Mr Darcy finally sees the errors in how he walks through the world believing he is better than anyone of lower social standing; Through Elizabeth’s rejection, he realizes that he must become a better person. It is so sweet in my opinion that Darcy changes himself because he thinks so highly of Elizabeth’s opinions rather than changing because he wants to impress Elizabeth. He doesn’t become a more generous person in order to win Lizzy over and marry her. This is obvious because he doesn’t even tell her that he helped save her sister Lydia from ruining the Bennet name when she eloped with the evil Mr Wickham. He literally put Elizabeth’s family before his own ego, reputation, and wealth by paying off his enemy and associating with this scandal. If he had bragged to Lizzy about this or even told her it might make her feel guilty and decide to marry him but because he tried to keep it a secret it made his actions so genuine. Additionally, once Darcy and Elizabeth marry they became close friends with her aunt and uncle who are lower high class showing that Darcy is less prejudicial against those with less wealth.
I greatly appreciate how Austen wrote a book with such smart social commentary for the time that still is valuable and relevant to our current world. I am obsessed with the feminist message of it, although of course in today’s world it is nowhere near as revolutionary as current stories can be. However, it is so inspiring that this beloved romance book is so significant.
Lastly, I recently read a P&P inspired novel, Pride, Prejudice, and Other Flavors by Sonali Dev and I really liked it. It is gender swapped and I would say that it is a pretty good take on the original story. This author writes books based off of different Jane Austen novels which I love (I read her version of Emma after I read Austen’s and I enjoyed both). So, one thing that reading Pride and Prejudice is that it has opened me up to consume other versions of the story which I am very excited for. However, the main thing that this book has brought me is just happiness; I love Jane Austen and this book just gave me so much joy. It hasn’t shaped how I see the world too much (although it has certainly reinforced the “he would if he wanted to” mindset because Darcy is the epitome of this). However, Elizabeth’s strong sense of self and her stubbornness has reinforced my appreciation for having these qualities too. I am proud that she made such independent choices based on what she wanted rather than what society wants and that makes me realize that I need to live my life this way too. If Elizabeth Bennet could do it in the 19th century then so can I in the 21st century.